Business ideas that will bring you cool cash this Ramadan season..

The holy month of Ramadan is underway in all Muslim countries along with other countries with more or less Muslim population. Muslims all over the globe are following a particular routine in this unique month by abstaining from food for most part of the day and try to attain moral and spiritual growth. This schedule impacts on most of the businesses not only in Muslim countries but also businesses on global scale. Despite being an assumption about the negative effects of Ramadan on businesses, the reality is completely different. The holy month not only increases scope of several types of businesses but entrepreneurs and even ordinary persons can expect to grow their new businesses in Ramadan.

Following are few of the businesses and commercial activities that provide best results during the holy month of Ramadan and one should start thinking about taking advantages of these new business opportunities in Ramadan.

Selling sweets, fried and baked items:

Different countries and cultures have their own favorite foods that they enjoy during Ramadan. But they came in the same category as mentioned above. Different fried and baked items along with various types of sweets are largely consumed in all parts of the Muslim world. The names and ingredients of these items may be different in different areas but they fulfill same purpose during Ramadan. That is to replenish the energy requirements of person after long hours of fasting.

Preparing and selling such types of products will surely result in acquiring large profits during the month of Ramadan. It is because such products are consumed in large amount as compared to routine months. Businesses dealing in other items can start such activity for one month for additional profits. It is difficult for small merchants to prepare these items in large numbers and they can sell already prepared items after purchasing them from vendors on regular basis. It will cost them less and they can get profits by selling them to commoners.

Selling clothes and jewelry:

Ramadan is month of salvation and prayer but it ends with the joyful festival of Eid. In different parts of the world, Muslims start preparations for Eid after half month of Ramadan. The most important items for Eid are new clothes and jewelry.

There is no way that one may lack profits after dealing in clothes and jewelry during Ramadan. There are lots of companies selling such products and their business will boom during Ramadan. These companies and brands can increase their business several folds by taking special measures and announcing promotions on different products.

But the opportunities are not limited to already establish businesses. People can also start new business by selling clothes and jewelry for one month. Due to high scope, there are immense chances of growth of both big and small business in Ramadan.

Ramadan/Eid gift packs:

Ramadan is a month of giving. Muslims usually tend to give more to needy persons during Ramadan. As an entrepreneur, you can make the things easier for them by selling different Ramadan gift packs. These gift packs usually contains various eatables consumed in Ramadan. Only using a little technique and effort can help you maximize your profits in the holy month.

Same is the case with Eid hampers and gift packs. People usually visit their relatives and friends on the occasion of Eid soon after Ramadan. It is accustomed to give different gift items to them. You can utilize this for increase in your business. Just neatly pack few sweets, eatables and simple jewelry for the purpose and it will produce positive effects on your business.

Arranging Iftar and Dinner:

On many occasions, not only individuals but even families prefer to open iftar and having their dinner outside amid tiredness of Ramadan. This activity is especially followed on weekends. This opens new opportunities for businesses related to food and beverage industry. Small and new entrepreneurs can also take full advantage of this situation by setting up their stalls in different populated areas. These stalls can offer cheap and healthy food to make their place in the already stuffed market. There is no reason to doubt about the profits one can gain in just one month long business in any Muslim country or any area with Muslim population.

Selling fruits and beverages:

Like previous several years, Ramadan this year is also coming in summer season (all Muslim countries are in northern hemisphere where summer season is from April to September). It clearly means that the demand of nutritious fruits along with natural and artificial drinks is quite high. This opportunity can be availed not only by professional companies that sell such products all year around but also by ordinary business-minded people.

By providing fresh and healthy fruits and juices at affordable rates, you can expect hefty profits that are only exclusive to the holy month of Ramadan.

These are just few of the several businesses that grow steadily during the whole month of Ramadan. If you are thinking about a related business or any other business, then you can make use of such opportunities in Ramadan to do an experiment and get knowledge about business techniques and ethics. Source

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WOMEN ISSUES IN THE MONTH OF RAMADAN PART 2

As a follow up to the part 1, Women Issues in the month of Ramadan. Let us today examine the followings matters that have to do with women issues in Ramadan.

NULLIFIERS OF FASTING.

THINGS THAT ARE NOT PERMITTTED FOR A WOMAN IN HER FASTING.

ISSUES THAT DO NOT HAVE EFFECTS ON YOUR FASTING AS A WOMAN.

NULLIFIERS OF FASTING:

1. Sex: day time in the Ramadan. the fasting is nullified.
2. Discharges of sperms through excessive kisses or contacts with your husband/wife (though you can hug and kiss lightly) No
problem with kisses and hugging only be sure you do not arouse your feelings.
3. Eating and drinking
4. Nutrient injections to keep you strong (DRIPS)
5. Deliberate vomiting. But uncontrollable vomiting does not nullify fasting
7. Menstruations or the discharges of blood during or before delivering or before giving birth.

THINGS THAT ARE NOT PERMITTED FOR A WOMAN WHEN FASTING ESPECIAL IN THE MONTH OF RAMADAN. (مكروهات الصيام)

Undesirable issues in fasting do not actually nullify your fasting, but it is recommended, that you do not burden yourself with fasting when you are in one of those situations. And they are:

1.When sick: The sick is not permitted to fast. Especial if the sickness weakens your body.

2.When on journey. Its recommended that, you do not fast when on journey.

3.During pregnancy: Pregnant women are supposed to abstain from fasting. Islam has exempted them temporary from fasting, due to what they go through.

4.Toothpaste: Though it does not nullify your fasting, but cautions must be observed here because of its pungent taste.
5.Constant gathering of saliva in the mouth and swallowing it. (Not a good behavior)

6.Too much water in the mouth during ablution for gargling or inhaling and exhaling.

7.Anti-Menses pills: Do not use pills that prevents you from your usual menses because of fasting or any other IBADAT. It does not nullify your fasting, but not recommended.

ISSUES THAT DO NOT HAVE EFFECTS ON YOUR FASTING:

1.The use of lips sticks or creams to prevent lips dryness

2.taking blood samples for medical reasons.

3.Women, who bleed abnormally beyond their period days, must fast even if they continue to bleed outside their normal menstrual days.

4.The use of performs and other body fragrance has nor any effects on your fasting.

5.Chewing sticks for a short period especial during ablutions do not have any effects on your fasting.

6.KOHL (KWALLI) for eyelids and other make up kids for women do not have any bearing on your fasting. Any exterior body substance for beautification does not have effect on your fasting.

7.Injections for medical reasons do not have effect on your fasting.

8.Light kisses between you and your husband without the exchange of saliva. And without exciting each other has no bearing on your fast. RASULULLAH used to kiss his wives s when fasting and when going out for prayers sometimes.

9.Asthmatic patient can use their mouth or throat spray while fasting. No problem with that.

10.A woman can taste the food she prepares lightly and without swallowing it to see if the ingredients she puts are ok. No problem with that even when fasting.

11.You can delay Janaba bathing after legal sex or after menstruations until sun rises no problem with that. Your fasting is valid. (JANABA does not have effects on fasting

12.Eye drops and Ear drops do not nullify fasting. Only nose drops have effects, cautions must be
observed here.

13. Bleeding of a pregnant woman does not have effects on her fasting. If its not a labour sign

14.Day dreams having sex does not have effects on your fasting.

15.If you forget and eat or drink something, and you suddenly remember that you are fasting, stop it immediately and continue with your fasting. No problem with that.

16. Food items or money from your boy friend during the Ramadan, though do not have effects on your fasting, but avoiding it is the best.(because of the illegal relationship between you and the man). ALLAH does not accept illegal things.

WHAT TO DO IF YOUR SENSELESS HUSBAND WANTS TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU DAY TIME IN THE RAMDAN,

Under no circumstances shall you allow your husband to have sex with you, day time in the Month of RAMADAN. If he forces and have sex with you against your will. Your fasting is valid. But he must offer some (KAFFARAT الكفارة) or Expiatory as a punishment for violating the sacredness of the holy month.

And the EXPIATORIES or kaffarat for having sex day time in the RAMADAN are:

1.Freeing of a slave. (Of course now there are no slaves so this option cannot be met)
2.If you can’t get a slave to free, then you must fast 2 months continuously without breaking unless with an acceptable tangible reason.
3. And if you can’t fast 2 months continuously, then you feed 60 needy or poor people.

SOME IMORTANT INFORMATIONS ABOUT THE RAMADAN:

1.The old must not fast. The old age people are exempted from fasting. They only need to feed a poor person daily.

2.If a non-Muslim lady becomes a Muslimah day time in the Ramadan, she has to abstain from eating in the public for that day, but she doesn't have to pay that day or any missing days.

3.It is well recommended that a woman should not fast when travelling especial if there is any possibilities of fatigues in the journey. Fasting while on journey is not a recommended habit. Its better you don’t fast.

4. If a young girl sees her menses for the first time day time in the Ramadan, she must abstain from food, though she will not pay for that day and the previous days, But fasting has become obligations on her from that day.

With this we come to an end to an for the Ramadan lectures. Next will be "Tafseer" of some verses and chapters.

May ALLAH swt make our fasting and Ibadah perfect. And may ALLAH swt reward our mothers, wives, daughters, sisters and all women who always work tirelessly to prepare food for us in every month of Ramadan. Aameen.

Every woman who can read the Holy Quran must try to read it many times in this blessed month.

RAMADAN FOR ONLY WOMEN: WOMEN ISSUES IN THE MONTH OF RAMADAN. (PART 1)

WHEN A WOMAN MUST START TO FAST IN ISLAM?
IN WHAT SITUATIONS IS SHE EXEMPTED FROM FASTING?
MENSTRUATIONS AND PREGNANCY IN RAMADAN. WHAT A WOMAN MUST DO?

As a follow up to my series of messages on fasting in Ramadan and its related issues. I am in this and in the coming series going to talk about women issues in the month of Ramadan. The laws, provisions and prohibitions on women in Ramadan.

Please, take your time and read them carefully. Women issues and are very difficult when in Islam and its ritual. We only try our best to explain some of them to you.

Women and men are equal in Islam and are equally rewarded in any IBADAT. The Holy Quran says:

“فَٱسۡتَجَابَ لَهُمۡ رَبُّهُمۡ أَنِّى لَآ أُضِيعُ عَمَلَ عَـٰمِلٍ۬ مِّنكُم مِّن ذَكَرٍ أَوۡ أُنثَىٰ‌ۖ بَعۡضُكُم مِّنۢ بَعۡضٍ۬”

And their LORD answered their SUPPLICATIONS, never shall I render useless the deeds of you, male or female your one member from one another (3:195)

Fasting or to fast is one of the 5 pillars or principles of Islam. Islam in its obligations and rewards does not differentiate between man and woman in all the IBADATS except where it relieves some demands on women due to some natural physical changes that occur to them sometimes. Aside that, a female and a male are both equal in the face Islam.

THE Holy Quran again: “وَٱلصَّـٰٓٮِٕمِينَ وَٱلصَّـٰٓٮِٕمَـٰتِ”
And the fasting men and fasting women (33:35)

These are only to tell you that men and women are equal in all the “Ibadats” in Islam.

Now to the main topic about women issues and conditions in the month of Ramadan.

1. WHAT IS FASTING IN ISLAM? AND WHO MUST FAST?

Fasting is defined as, the abstinence of food, drinks, sex and vulgar speeches from the sun rise to the sun set with “NIYAT” or intentions, every night in the month of RAMADAN. Fasting in the Ramadan, is an obligation on every Muslim or Muslimat who attained the age of adulthood (puberty), sane (MENTALLY FIT), resident (not a Traveler) and capable. (Free from sickness or menses).

2. HOW DO WE DETERMINE IF A GIRL HAS REACHED ADULTHOOOD (PUBERTY) IN ISLAM?

Islam is a RELIGION of rules and regulations. You cannot just do things as you want to. Some rules and conditions must be met first.

A woman is considered an adult with one of the following occurs in her.

1. Attaining the age of 15years.
2. The appearance or the growing of rough and coarse hair around the vagina.
3. Whenever a known sperms (semen) is found in her (by dreams or other means)
4. And when she starts to get her menses or she becomes
Pregnant.

If any of these conditions are found in a girl she is considered an adult. Fasting in the month of RAMADAN and other IBADATS become compulsory on her. It is therefore incumbent on her parents to see that she behaves like any adult observing 5 times daily prayers, fasting and other “IBAADAT”. And whenever, a girl becomes an adult in the afternoon during the month of the RAMADAN, then she must start fasting in the remaining days of the month, but does not have to pay the past days before she became an adult in that month.

3. MENSTRUATION IN THE RAMADAN.

Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) said.

( "أليس إذا حاضت المرأة لم تصل ولم تصم ؟")

“Isn't it, when a (Woman) is in her menses she does not pray nor fast?”

A menstrual woman must not fast, nor pray at all. But she will pay the missed days in the RAMADAN but not the missing prayers. A menstrual woman and the one bleeding after childbirth are the same; the same rules apply to them. Whenever a menstrual woman finds that, she is no more bleeding there are 2 situations for her

1. If her cycle ends in the morning or day time, she cannot fast that day.

2. If she finds that she is clean or no more bleeding just before FAJRI prayers, she must quickly bath and start fasting from that day. Failure to do so will mean she is deliberately dodging fasting on that day. Which is HARAM on her. She can fast even she is not yet bath. Provided she is no more bleeding. The bathing can be done later.

5. VAGINAL ABNORMAL BLEEDING: what it is and what a woman should do in the RAMADAN?

In the Islamic studies we have something we called “DAMMUL ISTIHADA or دم الاستحا ضة” abnormal situation that occurs in some women, when vagina continue to discharge blood even when she is off menstrual period. When this happens to a woman in her usual menstruations circles, she should count her normal days which ranges between (3,5,or 7days) depending on the person, any additional day than her normal periods are considered abnormal that’s what we called ,
“DAMMUL ISTIHADA” or دم الاستحا ضة”)

Continue abnormal bleeding does not prevent a woman from fasting. She should bath in that condition and start praying and fasting. That is not a menstruations blood and must not prevent her from any “IBADAT” even to circumambulate or go around the KA’ABAH.

6. PREGNANCY AND THE MENSTRUATION PAINS AND SIGNS.

Whenever a pregnant woman sees blood coming from her vagina and she is fasting, she should continue with her fasting because that’s not a menstruation. But when a woman start to get her labor pangs or pains during pregnancy, or menstruations pains and there is no blood coming out from her till sun sets on that day, then her fasting is perfect and she must not repay that day.

A pregnant woman and a nursing mother, whenever they are not comfortable either because of their baby or themselves, they can stop fasting and pay those days later. No “KAFFARAT or ransom on them. But other scholars say that, a pregnant woman and a nursing money can stop fast and will not even pay for the days they missed. And they based their “Fatwa” on Hadith of RASULULLAH that says:

(قال نبي الله صلى الله عليه وسلم:« إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَعَالَى وَضَعَ عَنْ الْمُسَافِرِ الصَّوْمَ وَشَطْرَ الصَّلَاةِ، وَعَنْ الْحَامِلِ أَوْ الْمُرْضِعِ الصَّوْمَ» [أخرجه أهل السنن إلا أبا داود]، فإذا وضع الله ذلك فليس لأحد أن يلزمهما به قضاءً إلا بدليل.

ALLAH swt, has relieved fasting on the traveler and has permitted him to pray half of any SALAT on the road until he reaches his destination. The last part of the Hadith says:

وَعَنْ الْحَامِلِ أَوْ الْمُرْضِعِ الصَّوْمَ»
And ALLAH has relieved fasting on the pregnant and nursing mother.

That’s why some knowledgeable men from the Companions of RASULULLAH like (Ibn Umar and Ibn Abbass ) said, the pregnant and nursing mother can break their fasting and do not have to pay the missing days, because RASULULLAH said that. But she must feed the poor for each day she misses.

قال ابن عمر رضي الله عنه:"الحامل والمرضع تفطر ولا تقضي" [الدارقطني]، وقال:"تطعم مكان كل يوم مسكيناً[البيهقي]، وبذالك أفتى ابن عباس [أخرجه البيهقي]، ودين الله يسر.

What most scholars say is, the pregnant and nursing mother will pay the missing days and not “Kaffarat” on them.

Are You A Traveler? Learn How And When To Shorten Solat!

* Shortening Salat when travelling is sunnatu mu-akkadah (Emphasised Sunnah), even if no difficulty is encountered. 4:101, al-Nasaa’i, 1420; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Nasaa’I, al-Nasaa’i, 2275; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Nasaa’i. Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 8/127, I’laam al-Musafireen bi Ba’d Aadab wa Ahkaam al-Safar wa ma yakhuss al-Mallaheen al-Jawwiyyeen by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen, p. 13

* Shortening Salat mean observing four rak’ats Salat (like Zuhr, ‘Asr and ‘Isha) as two rak’ats. Sahih fiqhi sunnah, Jami’u liahkami fiqhi sunnah.

* Some scholars set a distance for a travel before Salat can be shortened to be four ‘Burud’ (16 farsakh/48 miles/83km) while the most evidenced is to shorten Salat whenever it is referred to as travel in language and practice and it requires preparation of provision for travel. Q4:101-102: Al-Tirmidhi, hadith 2960, Al-Tirmidhi, hadith 453, al-Mughni (2/65), Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (8/99)

* According to some jurists, if you know that you are going to stay in a place for more than four days, you will not do ‘qasr’ but if you are going to stay there for less than four days or you don’t know when you will finish the task, then you will continue with the ‘qasr’ while some concluded that in as much you are living like a traveller (not like inhabitant), shortening of Salat continues. The reason for the differences is that there is no definitive evidence that would dispel confusion, hence, the views of the scholars differed. Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar said in his commentary on the hadeeth of al-‘Ala’ ibn al-Hadrami, according to which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Three days for the muhaajir after returning from Mina.” al-Bukhari, 3933 and Muslim, 1352, Al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 4/545, al-Majmoo’, 3/171; Bidaayat al-Mujtahid, 1/168. What this hadith refers to is that staying Makkah was forbidden to one who had migrated therefrom before the Conquest, but it was permitted to those who went there for Hajj or ‘Umrah to stay after completing the rituals (of Hajj or ‘Umrah) for three days and no more. It was understood from this that if a person stays for three days, the rulings on travelers still apply to him. Fath al-Baari, 7/267.

In summary, these three categories of travelers will observe Salat qasr: A traveler that is proceeding without staying on the journey route; a traveler that does not intend to stay but expects accomplishment of a need; and a traveler that travels to a city but does not have the intention of such stay that will make him not to be on journey (like NYSC orientation camp). However, a traveler that travels to a city other than his own city but intends to stay there, such stay that will make him not to be on journey, will not observe Salat qasr. Sahih fiqhi sunnah, Jami’u liahkami fiqhi sunnah.

* Travellers need to attend Jumu’ah and Eid Salat. Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 11/140-142

* It is permissible for a traveller to join two Salats (Zuhur and Asr, Magrib and Ishah), wiping over socks for three days and shortening prayers, and not fasting during Ramadan. And it makes no difference whether he travels by land or by sea. Q4:101, al-Bukhari, 1090; Muslim, 685, al-Bukhari, 1081; Muslim, 693Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (8/109, Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (8/155), Majmoo Fataawa wa Maqaalaat Mutanawwi’iah li’l-Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (12/297). Al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 4/514, Muslim, 705, Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 22/293.

* It is permissible for traveler to join two prayers whilst thinking it most likely that he will reach his city before the end of the time for the second one. Liqaa’aat al-Baab il-Maftooh (1/203).

* If the traveler is in a city or town other than his own, he has to attend prayers in congregation in the mosque if he hears the call to prayer. Q4:102, al-Bukhari, 618; Muslim, 651, al-Bukhari, 626; Muslim, 651, al-Tirmidhi, 217; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, Majmoo’ Fataawa wa Rasaa’il al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 15/252, Majmoo’ Fataawa wa Rasaa’il al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 15/422, Al-Awsat, 4/135, Al-Salaah wa Hukm Taarikiha, p. 137, 138, Q2:43, Q3:43 Q9:119, al-Salaah wa Hukm Taarikiha, 139-141, Al-Awsat, 4/134, Subul al-Salaam, 2/18, 19, Abu Dawood (552) and Ibn Maajah (792), Al-Majmoo’, 4/164, Al-Awsat, 4/134, Al-Mughni, 2/3, Muslim, 654, Al-Salaah wa Hukm Taarikiha, p. 146, 147, Al-Salaah wa Hukm Taarikiha, p/ 153

* If a traveler prays with an imam he should pray four rak’ats, whether he catches up with the prayer from the beginning or he misses part of it. Q4:102. Al-Bukhari 636, Muslim 602, Muslim 688, Ahmad 1865.

* If the traveler catches up with the imam in less than a rak’ah, he should pray the prayer in shortened form. For example: the traveler catches up with the imam in the final tashahhud of the Zuhr prayer. In that case he should pray Zuhr as two rak’ahs. This is how he should pray if he did not catch up with one rak’ah or more. Saheeh Muslim (688), Saheeh Muslim (694).

* A traveler that prays ‘Isha behind a resident who is praying Tarawih, after observing two rak’ats with Imam he/she should say the salaam with the imam, because then he has followed the Sunnah by shortening his prayer, and he has not gone differ from the imam, because the imam prayed two rak’ahs. Liqa’ al-Baab il-Maftooh (30/117).

* Nafilah before or after Zuhur, Asr, Mogrib and ‘Ishai may not need to be offered by travellers but it is sunnah to offer others like witr, sunnah of fajr, qiyamu layl, Q33:21, Q51:17, Saheeh Sunan Abi Dawood, 1269, al-Bukhari, 1000, al-Bukhaari, 1098, al-Bukhari, 400, al-Bukhari, 357. Al-Bukhari, 1673, Muslim, 1218, Zaad al-Ma’aad, 1/473, Zaad al-Ma’aad, 1/315, Muslim, 681, Kitaab Salaat al-Musaafireen wa qasriha (The prayer of travelers and shortening the prayer) (no. 724), Zaad al-Ma’aad, 1/316.

* Praying Tarawih is mustahabb for the traveller as for the non-traveler. Zaad al-Ma’aad (1/311), Al-Bukhari (945) Saheeh (1112) Q33:21, Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (7/206)

* If you are living in a city working from Monday to Friday and travel back home by weekends, you will not do ‘qasr’ while in the cities (home and working place) except if you are on the road in between, then, you can shorten salat. Liqaa’aat al-Baab al-Maftooh (1/294), Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 8/148.

* A woman should not travel except with a mahram, even if it is a short trip. Al-Bukhaari (1729) and Muslim (2391), Fath al-Baari (4/76), Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (17/339, Tuhfat al-Muhtaaj (2/370) and al-Mawsoo’ah al-Fiqhiyyah (27/270).

His Wife is not very interested in Intercourse so he Resorts to Masturbation

Questions:

I am a man of a strong desire. I like to have intercourse everyday. When I try to start it with my wife, she refuses for weak reasons like saying she is tired or lazy to make ghusl or because she wants to delay it to next day. So I have intercourse with her only twice a week. I cannot be patient. So I have to masturbate by my hand fearing to fall into adultery. Although I know it is haram, I masturbate about three times a week while my wife is beside me and she knows what I am doing. My wife cares a lot about beautifying herself and using perfumes, but she becomes annoyed if I ask her for sex. Am I sinful to masturbate by my hand? If yes, then does my wife share in this sin

Answer:

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly: 

The husband has to treat his wife kindly, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“and live with them honourably”

[al-Nisa’ 4:19] 

Part of living with one’s spouse honourably is having intercourse, which is obligatory upon the husband, as much as is sufficient to satisfy her, so long as it does not harm him physically or distract him from earning a living.

The wife is obliged to obey her husband if he calls her to his bed, and if she refuses then she is sinning, because of the report narrated by al-Bukhaari (32370 and Muslim (1436) from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him), that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a man calls his wife to his bed and she does not come to him, and he goes to sleep angry with her, the angels will curse her until morning.”

Shaykh al-Islam [Ibn Taymiyah] (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: She has to obey him if he calls her to his bed, and this is a duty that is obligatory upon her. … If she refuses to respond to his call, then she is being disobedient and wilfully defiant. … as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“As to those women on whose part you see ill‑conduct, admonish them (first), (next) refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance”

[al-Nisa’ 4:34] 

End quote from al-Fataawa al-Kubra (3/145, 146).

But it is not permissible for the husband to force his wife to do that for which she is not able with regard to intercourse. If she has an excuse because she is sick or she cannot bear it, then she is not sinning if she refuses to have intercourse.

Ibn Hazm (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Both slave women and free women are enjoined not to refuse the master or husband if he calls them for intercourse, so long as the woman who is called is not menstruating or sick and likely to be harmed by intercourse, or observing an obligatory fast. If she refuses with no excuse then she is cursed. End quote from al-Muhalla (10/40).

Al-Bahooti (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

The husband has the right to enjoy his wife at any time, so long as that does not keep her from performing obligatory duties or harm her; he does not have the right to enjoy her in that case, because that is not part of living with them honourably. But if it does not distract her from that or cause her harm, then he has the right to enjoyment. End quote from Kashshaaf al-Qinaa’ (5/189).

The wife whose husband is harming her by having intercourse too often may come to some agreement with her husband concerning a specific number that she can put up with, and if he does more to such an extent that it is harmful to her, then she has the right to refer the matter to the qaadi (judge), who may determine a specific number and oblige both husband and wife to adhere to that.

Secondly: 

There is no sin if the husband is masturbated by his wife’s hand, because it is permissible for him to enjoy her; the same applies if he ejaculates outside the vagina, because of the general meaning of the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts)

6.Except from their wives or (the slaves) that their right hands possess, __ for then, they are free from blame”

[al-Mu’minoon 23:5,6].  

If the wife will be harmed by intercourse, she will not be harmed if her husband enjoys her in other ways, so she has to allow him to do that.

Both spouses have to tackle this problem in a kind, loving and frank manner; and each of them should understand the rights and duties that they have, because most marital problems stem from ignorance of that.

Some husbands are keen to satisfy their own desires, and they hasten to do that without caring about their wives or paying attention to their right to pleasure, so the wife finds no enjoyment in it and is put off by it, and it becomes a problem and a burden for her.

Hence we say: Strive to create love and affection between you and your wife; pay attention to her situation and understand her feelings; avoid that which will harm her or hurt her. Tell her of the shar’i ruling concerning this issue and help her to follow it, and do not put her off, and be moderate in your approach, and you will get what you want.

May Allaah help us and you to obey Him and seek His pleasure.

And Allaah knows best.

My Husband Is Physically Unable to Sexually Satisfy Me. What Should I Do ?

I have been married for a decade, my husband is physically unable to sexually satisfy me, and he does not want to seek medical advice. He also doesn’t practice. What should I do

Answer:

Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for seeking out clarity on this sensitive and important issue.

Erectile Dysfunction

Dear sister, your husband’s inability to sexually satisfy you is treatable, but only if he is willing to seek help. This sexual difficulty can actually point to other health issues.



Sexual frustration

This is a serious issue, as being unable to sexually satisfy one’s wife is legitimate grounds for divorce. I pray that Allah softens your husband’s heart, and helps him satisfy you through seeking medical help.

If you are sexually frustrated to the point of fearing falling into zina, then it is permissible for you to masturbate. However, that is a last resort. It is praiseworthy for you to use other methods of controlling desire, such as fasting, reducing/eliminating meat intake, avoiding media that can inflame the senses etc. Allah knows how difficult this is for you.

Prayer of Guidance

I encourage you to perform the Prayer of Guidance up til seven times to help you decide how to move forward. Marriage is a a contract which permits lawful intercourse between a husband and a wife. If this is not happening for you, then you need to have an open and honest discussion with your husband about how you are not satisfied with your marriage. Part of loving one’s spouse is wanting to please them in ways which are important to them. Wanting to be sexually satisfied is a reasonable, healthy and important expectation within marriage. Please see a culturally-sensitive marriage counsellor so you can get some professional help in resolving this issue.

Children

Do you and your husband want to have children? Addressing his health issue is a critical step in wanting to have kids someday.

Non-practising husband

May Allah reward you for making dua for your husband and encouraging him to good. I encourage you to perform the Prayer of Need regularly, in the last third of the night, and beg Allah for help. Never underestimate the power of dua.

Set a good example by being someone who actively worships Allah in all that you do. Treat him with compassion, patience, and make dua for improvement in his character as well as yours. Be of service in other ways too, and encourage him to do the same e.g. soup kitchens, visiting the sick etc.

Reward

“What is with you passes away and what is with Allah is enduring; and We will most certainly give to those who are patient their reward for the best of what they did.” [Qur’an, 16:96]

Allah alone knows the tremendous reward you are earning for being patient with your husband. At the same time, please be honest with yourself. Is this a life you are truly content living? If you want change, such as the ability to experience marital intimacy or the joy of a spouse you can worship Allah with, then you must do your best to get him on board. If he resists and does not want to be part of the solution, then please ask yourself if you’ll be happy going on like this indefinitely. I pray that Allah grants you clarity on this issue, and guides you to what is most pleasing to Him.